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1Hopeful started this conversation

Maybe someone out there has experienced the same thing that I have. First I'm not one to drag my feet. On the other hand sometimes I wish I were. Being stubborn and hardheaded did not help any in the situation either. I believe that marriage is the unity I think that when people get married they become one and they share their life together. Since I have been married I think things have gotten harder for me. First my husband has a very nice used car. He told me that he would give it to me because he was looking for a small truck and he didn't need two vehicles. The problem was he wasn't looking at all, he just said he was looking. He likes to drag his feet on everything. In the meantime I have no car, no way to get around anywhere, and it was like he wanted me to depend on him. I've learned in the past that you never count or depend on anyone except yourself. So being hardheaded I started looking for my own car. I wanted to show him that I didn't need to depend or count on him for anything. I found one that I thought was a good deal. I bought it from an auto auction so I did not get to test the waters first. After I paid all the money for it they brought it out and it was mine. At first I was very excited. I thought all it needed was a new battery. This car has been my nightmare. After I got the battery and started up I soon realized that the good deal was a lemon. With all my money gone I realized that the car needed a new engine. My husband and I have been fighting about this car ever since I got it. I think because he felt in control and could determine when I could have a vehicle, and I trumped him and got the car anyway without him checking it out. I haven't told him about the engine. I know I'm not going to tell him about the engine. If I told him about the engine I would never hear the end of it. So now I'm in the same situation as before with no car and now no money.

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Hawaii2010

Some what the same situation as yourself as far as being stubborn and refusing to listen to my fiance' about buying this old golf cart from his friend for $500. I was told to wait but being anxious and wanting the cart so bad to ride around in the area I lived I bought it anyway. Fiance' was really upset and his friend told me he would fix the golf cart anytime if something should go wrong with it. Well, I brought it home road it for about a half hour and it broke down a distance from my home to have to push it all the way back which I did by myself. Calling my fiances friend I told him that it had broke down. His friend replied "Sure I'll fix it for a price!" Right then and there I knew my fiance's friend had ripped me off. He is no longer a good friend anymore with fiance' for taking advantage of an over zealous fool that wanted to buy a golf cart. It is not easy to admit that you had made a drastic mistake but once made it gives us more of an advantage to know better next time. Look at this situation as a learning one and swallow the lost like I had too. Many had told me I could have took him to small claims court but I am not a person of that statue. I strongly believe in "What goes around, comes around" and that will be enough in its self. This situation is a lesson to be learned. We just have to acknowledge it.

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luvbrown24

OMG...honey you are in a situation that is going to require for you to make the decision to be honest with your husband. U probably need to tell him to relieve u from the burden of hiding things from him. If you love him you have too swallow that pride and if he loves you he would understand where ur coming from & why u went out in the first place to get a car. You have to be honest with urself first, why do u feel how u feel first and why do u & ur husband have too have a relationship like how it is? Do u love urself & hubby? Think about & let me know ur going to handle this situation, I would love 2 know

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ekikaseven

We all live & learn.

Don't be to hard on yourself.

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